Behind the Scenes, Nashville Wives

Genetically Connected

This episode starts out with Ana and Jenny meeting Erika for lunch to try and see if they can all be friends. I was very proud of my sister for not only keeping an open-mind but also giving Erika another chance. If there's one thing I know about my sister, Ana, it's that once she makes an opinion about you that's it…Especially after girl's night when Erika really was not interested in anything anyone had to say. I don't think it was with bad intent, but I think she really hasn't been out in a long time and just didn't realize we all wanted to participate in the conversation. Here's a little party rule: If you say something about yourself let everyone else share something about themselves. A conversation takes 2+ people.


Yes, it would be intimidating for someone like Erika to go to a lunch with two extroverts like Jenny and Ana. Both are power-houses, confident, and strong women. Believe me, they've had their fair share of hard-knocks too, and they really wanted to give Erika another chance before just writing her off. I love Erika and understand what it is like to be homebound with sons so this made me happy. I hope they can all move forward.


Now let's talk about Erika's photo shoot. I was a little shocked watching it. First of all, I love Joel the make-up artist. I have known him for 20 years and have worked with him so many times – he's a true professional. I felt so bad for Joel when she dissed her hair and make-up. I personally thought she looked fabulous. Though, it was funny to me to actually see her come "alive" when she put the apron on. Maybe that's why she likes costumes so much…it lets her be another character. Bryan seems very loving and supportive. It was a very tender moment when he was trying to boost her confidence during dinner. (Which, by the way Ana had cooked for them. A fabulous Cuban dish Camarones Enchilados) He is a great guy.


I loved watching the scene when Sarah and Dallas were having a song-writing session early in the episode. I enjoyed watching him craft and mold the song with Sarah. I can see now why he has so many #1 hits. Now that I'm getting to watch the episodes and see their personal story, I have noticed that there really is "real-love" between them. "Marriage is a compromise" as Dallas says and it takes a lot of work. I regret saying that Dallas didn't "water his flower garden" after seeing the writing session segment. You could actually see he was doing it in the best way he knew how. I went over to her house before her dinner party and tried to see if everything was alright. Knowing Sarah, she played it cool… but all I saw was sadness in Sarah's eyes. They both really do love each other.


Jenny and JT's relationship is so nice to watch. They have so much love and respect for each other. I understand JT wanting a second child (having three of my own). It would make life easier if baby Hank had a buddy to play with. I always wanted more than one child because I didn't want to be the "sole-entertainer." Jenny works so hard and travels on a weekly basis. It must be a hard decision for her to have another baby with the job she has. I can only imagine how exhausted she is. I almost started to cry when she started to tear up and was talking about how guilty she feels when she has to leave. I knew Jenny was adopted but when she said what it feels like to be "genetically connected" I finally realized how lonely it can be when you don't know who you are genetically connected too.

 

Sarah's dinner party was intense. Besides the fact that is was sweltering outside, we were sitting like kids on time-out at those low tables! In this moment, we were all really getting to know each other…but that doesn't mean we still can't be misconceived. Take that whole conversation about marriage, for instance. I think Ana and I were misunderstood when we were talking about our relationships with men. Yes, of course I think marriage is a sacred union but you can't "cage" a person. When I said Raul's job is to flirt everybody looked so shocked!!!! As if I was saying something so left field and something so wrong. I never said it was okay to go cheat, but apparently, that's what they assumed. Let's be real clear on this one, I do not give my husband a hall pass to cheat!


What shocked me was when Jenny started talking about Sarah's career. Jenny asks Sarah how is Dallas going to handle it when men start stalking her and Erika said that that was okay because he "gets-it". "He knows the business." So, in other words, it's okay for the girls to flirt but not the guys? What a double standard!! Come on ladies…these people are in the entertainment business. Their job is to flirt and flirting doesn't mean cheating. It means having charisma and engaging with your audience. What's wrong with that?


XOX,

Betty