Nashville Wives, Behind the Scenes

To Tell the Truth

See what Betty Malo had to say about Private Lives of Nashville Wives "To Tell the Truth" episode.

It’s hard to believe we are already six episodes into this adventure. As you surely know, there is so much that gets filmed that never makes it to the public. Hopefully, the deleted scenes will be posted somewhere. There are moments that I’m grateful that found its way to the cutting room floor and regrets no one will be able to see, but overall, watching each week with all of you has been more or less painless. This was one of the more difficult episodes for me, as it brought out so many things to the surface. And what most people will never know is what did not get shown on the episode.

I thought it only fitting that this week kicked off with Ana’s “Truth or Dare” party. My friends know me well and know how I feel about telling the truth. But the word truth is misleading – what it’s really about is honesty and integrity. I kept feeling these emotions boil up from scene to scene, so I figured this week’s blog, it’s time for me to be totally honest. I apologize in advance if I hurt anyone’s feelings, but I think it’s essential to put it out there.

Let me start by saying that everyone needs a Tina Brady in his or her life. She is encouraging and loving, unconditional and motivating. She exudes confidence and femininity while being compassionate and understanding. Tina is a force to be reckoned with – she’s a true renaissance woman. Watching this episode, I was so happy to see her nurture and dress Sarah, especially in this difficult time Sarah is going through. What an amazing friend she is. Tina lifts you up when you are down.  We all need friends like her!! Not to mention that CLOSET OF BLING!!!

The truth or dare party was confusing to me. I felt as if we were all being set up to fail. You know those ‘damned if you do, damned if you don’t’ situations. Well, this was one of those. As a group of ladies, these are the moments that you should be able to be honest without anyone passing judgment. After all, it’s for fun and games… and drinks & laughter! But if I want to share my truth with you I don’t need a truth or dare party as a vehicle for my honesty (as witnessed in the bus ride later). I will always shoot you straight anytime, anywhere, any day. It’s true in life, and especially at this party, that people like to try to make others fit into the mold of their life. Trust me when I tell you that no good will ever come from that. I respect Erika’s need for privacy and I feel she did share (in some moments that did not make it into the show). I didn’t like that her answers weren’t sufficient for some of the other ladies. Will you all please lay off of her already?!? 

In other moments of the party, Ana says that if you are married to a “star” you can’t be yourself?  In my opinion, that is a bunch of BS!  Oh, and this is something you should know about me – all that talk of pooping on the bus…really? Obviously, everyone does it, but if you are ever around me, my number one rule is NEVER burp or fart in front of me! – Ooh! Gross!

As for that road trip…

The bus ride was eventful to say the least. Of course, only a few minutes of the 10 hours made it on to the show, but what you did not see was how Jenny’s issue with Erika’s shirt seemed to go on for HOURS. I could care less for the reasons why Erika was wearing the “I Love Adoption” t-shirt. It’s her body, not mine. If it means something to her then I respect and honor that.  What good is there in criticizing what someone is trying to advocate or pick on them for how they do it?  While I respect and honor Jenny’s experience with adoption, it’s just that, Jenny’s experience. Take a moment to recognize that each of us are individuals, living our own lives in our own way. Speaking of which…

It was totally out of left field when Jenny asked me about my relationship with my husband Raul. Don’t ask me a question if you can’t handle the answer and furthermore, don’t judge or criticize me for it. Yes, Raul and I have been married for over 2 decades.  Yes, we have had our own trials and tribulations, but we chose to stay together. In doing so, we have become stronger for working our way through them. Maybe that’s the Latin way *shoulder shrug*. I cannot bring up past mistakes over and over nor hold judgment for them… what good does that do? The past is just that, THE PAST! No one wants to relive it, especially if isn’t a good memory. It works for me and my marriage and that is all that matters to me. I don’t care what anyone thinks or assumes. My husband and my three children are my world. I hated to have what was supposed to be a fabulous getaway to one of my favorite cities dampened by this.

Raul Malo and Betty Malo wedding ceremony held in Chicago. Trisha Yearwood - MOH & Frank Callari - Best Man | Betty Badd Couture

Chicago is a very special place to me. Fun fact - Raul and I were actually married there 20 plus years ago after losing everything during Hurricane Andrew. Raul’s manager at the time, Frank Callari, was his best man and country singer, Trisha Yearwood, was my Maid of Honor. We all wore black. It was a blast. Again, that was 20+ years ago.  When you are married that long, then come talk to me. Until then, don’t judge! Speaking of judging. . .

Why in the hell does Jenny think Cassie is unauthentic?? She is as honest as anyone could be.  Just because she’s always nice and pleasant, she’s not being real? Honey, not everyone is abrasive all the time. Jenny’s “TBD” friendship comment was a first class insult. I never thought anyone was acting pious or better than her; everyone was being as honest as they were willing to be and willing to share. I was forced to come to Cassie’s and Erika’s defense and would gladly do it again if need be. But let me say this – it was not an ‘attack’ on Jenny, it was a defense of the other ladies.

Watching when Jenny meets Sarah in her room, I really got upset. Jenny states that she felt I attacked her. Attack? No. Calling her out on being rude? Yes, I did. I will not sit there and watch defenseless women become entrapped in someone’s judgment.   She also begins to discuss what I said on the bus about my relationship. WTF, Jenny?!? That was for me to tell Sarah not anyone else.  It’s funny how you can tell Ana that Sarah’s divorce isn’t your business to tell, but you happily discussed MY business.  I almost felt like I was the topic of that afternoon’s gossip and I don’t like that AT ALL!!!!

Sarah’s show was such a highlight. You literally felt her regaining her self-esteem and feminine power as she performed on stage. I will rally around Sarah always. Sarah is a kind and loving spirit and she knows that I have her back. She deserves all of the world’s treasures offered to her.

Despite how it may appear, I also do like Jenny. She is a strong empowered woman. She is a larger than life kind of person and that’s why I told her to be careful the way she says things. I was NEVER trying to hurt her feelings, just trying to be honest and helpful. I think she needed to stop and see how others viewed the situation. All I was trying to do was explain to her that different people need different ways of communication. So I was impressed when Jenny “mothered” Erika by trying to feed her. I do believe Jenny wants to forge a friendship with Erika and is actively pursuing that bond. But Erika finally had had enough. Who wouldn’t blame her? Unfortunately, when you get to that point, you aren’t understood the way you want people to understand you. That’s why I always say “SPEAK YOUR TRUTH”. Say what you mean and mean what you say. Don’t hold back because you might not get a second chance!

What I didn’t discuss in my TNT blog was that Ana and I had a blast in Chicago. We haven’t gone out on the town like that in such a long time. It was so much fun to enjoy my twin sister after all the chaos of the Manuel Fashion Show. Although, next week it gets a little crazier with her Match.com date…. or mine.... Oops! *spoiler alert* !!

Thank you for taking the time to read my recap on last night’s episode of Nashville Wives. Don’t forget to enter the contest to win a $500 shopping spree here on BettyBadd.com! See our contest page for details.

 

Love you all xoxo - B